[acb-hsp] Working with Learned Helplessness

[Donna]

Hi Darla, 
When I work with consumers like this I remind them of the goals they set at the beginning of the process and I re-emphasize my role in helping them meet those goals. If I've made suggestions that will help guide them in accomplishing those goals and they still refuse to do the leg work or make negative decisions I back off because they need to learn for themselves at that point and I do not feel the least bit guilty about their  non-compliant behavior.  In some cases I've actually refused to provide services until they decide they are ready to get serious about the goals they said they wished to accomplish.  
  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: Darla Rogers 
  To: 'Discussion list for ACB human service professionals' 
  Sent: Sunday, August 26, 2012 10:27 PM
  Subject: [acb-hsp] Working with Learned Helplessness


  Hi Everyone,

   

  Our center works with a lot of minority consumers who think things should be "done" for or "to" them, and try as I might, only with some do I get through to them that this "process", for want of a better word, belongs to them; I'm merely the facilitator and, of course, if they make a genuine effort and don't get anywhere, I always stand ready to help, but some will do nothing unless I do it for them or won't make decisions that would have a more positive impact on how they live their lives--that's there right under the independent living model--but I don't feel like I should have to pick of the pieces for bad decision-making when they have received counsel otherwise.

   

  Any suggestion on how to work better with them and help them become real participants in becoming as independent as is possible for them?

   

   

   

  Darla J. Rogers

  djrogers0628 at gmail.com

   



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