[acb-hsp] Working with Learned Helplessness

[Donna]

Lol.  I was lucky.  Whenever I had a situation like this come up my director 
always supported me.  I hope yours will too.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Darla Rogers" <djrogers0628 at gmail.com>
To: "'Discussion list for ACB human service professionals'" 
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Sent: Tuesday, August 28, 2012 7:47 PM
Subject: Re: [acb-hsp] Working with Learned Helplessness


> Thank you, Donna; this is where I'm going, and if my director gets angry 
> I'm
> closing his "pet," he can have her or assign her to a new staff member 
> most
> of whom have never heard of the independent living movement.  <giggle>
>
> Warm Regards,
> Darla
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: acb-hsp-bounces at acb.org [mailto:acb-hsp-bounces at acb.org] On Behalf 
> Of
> Donna
> Sent: Tuesday, August 28, 2012 4:19 PM
> To: Discussion list for ACB human service professionals
> Subject: Re: [acb-hsp] Working with Learned Helplessness
>
> Hi Darla,
> When I work with consumers like this I remind them of the goals they set 
> at
> the beginning of the process and I re-emphasize my role in helping them 
> meet
> those goals. If I've made suggestions that will help guide them in
> accomplishing those goals and they still refuse to do the leg work or make
> negative decisions I back off because they need to learn for themselves at
> that point and I do not feel the least bit guilty about their 
> non-compliant
> behavior.  In some cases I've actually refused to provide services until
> they decide they are ready to get serious about the goals they said they
> wished to accomplish.
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: Darla Rogers <mailto:djrogers0628 at gmail.com>
> To: 'Discussion list for ACB human service professionals'
> <mailto:acb-hsp at acb.org>
> Sent: Sunday, August 26, 2012 10:27 PM
> Subject: [acb-hsp] Working with Learned Helplessness
>
>
> Hi Everyone,
>
>
>
> Our center works with a lot of minority consumers who think things
> should be "done" for or "to" them, and try as I might, only with some do I
> get through to them that this "process", for want of a better word, 
> belongs
> to them; I'm merely the facilitator and, of course, if they make a genuine
> effort and don't get anywhere, I always stand ready to help, but some will
> do nothing unless I do it for them or won't make decisions that would have 
> a
> more positive impact on how they live their lives--that's there right 
> under
> the independent living model--but I don't feel like I should have to pick 
> of
> the pieces for bad decision-making when they have received counsel
> otherwise.
>
>
>
> Any suggestion on how to work better with them and help them become
> real participants in becoming as independent as is possible for them?
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> Darla J. Rogers
>
> djrogers0628 at gmail.com
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