[acb-hsp] How I Learned About Mainstream Myths About Eating Disorders Are Wrong

[J.Rayl]

Wow.  Laura L, very interesting topic.  First, I struggled for years with an 
eating disorder of sorts, not severe but borderline--annorexia.  I'm totally 
blind.  However, I thought I knew what other girls looked like--I knew some 
were much heavier than me, some were much smaller--like my sister.  That 
didn't matter so much.  What did matter was that my mother and sisters 
called me fat and ugly, no matter what, and so I decided that if I were 
skinnier, I'd be skinny and pretty--like my sister, like a few girls I knew 
who were small.  And the horror of it all was, I was skinny and beautiful! 
So, I kept starving myself, exercising out the ars, and then when the pang 
of it all was too strong, I'd eat and exercise the heck out of myself some 
more--always, always to maintain that size 6 when I was little, then size 8 
and never, ever, ever ever! going over size ten.  No way, no how.
Now, I'm ft 5, in 7.  So maintain size 10 throughout my life and always no 
matter what, no way no how has been quite a fit, can't be a 12, had to be a 
10.  And I'd punish myself with food deprivation and voocoos of exercise to 
do it.  No diets and fad diets, just food deprivation and exercise.
I hated, literally hated, mealtime with my family.  I grew to dislike my 
family.  Family gatherings were a torture.  I knew they'd call me fat and 
ugly.  I knew they'd be calling everyone else fat and ugly too.
Well, guess what?
I found myself in the world's best therapist's office I've ever met.  He 
tested that reality right along with all others and I finally came to 
understand that my family doesn't write the rules, not even close.
Every one of my sisters and mother are, first of all, at least five or six 
inches shorter than me.  And now, everyone of them are heavier than me--and 
except for one, have always been.  Is it any wonder they have called me fat 
and ugly?
They have little or no education compared to mine either.
But its not for me to compare because that's precisely what breeds misery 
and their need to put me down for something I'm not, and never was.
I'm size 12 now, almost a 14.  And gues what? I don't give a happy flying 
hang.  I'm daggon 48 years old too.  <LOL>  And I'm still beautiful and 
happy.  I wish I'd figured this out 30 some years ago and put all that dang 
energy into being on the USABA team which is what I wanted to do instead of 
letting these daggon negative people in my life call me fat & ugly, and the 
doctors put me on their stupid drugs and call me asthmatic so the USABA 
wouldn't accept me.  That would have been a far, far better use of my hard, 
hard wasted time & energy.
But I didn't.  So now, I'm going on with my life, and no one but no one 
calls me fat or ugly--to my face.  <LOL>

In my work with people who develop ED (eating disorders) or Body image as 
with all manner of mental illness, there is no one single cause.  If it were 
so simple, we could just come up with a treatment or two and wala! zap! it 
would be cured.
Some peopel have distorted ideas of what constitutes "beautiful".  Some 
people have thinking errors--as did I.  Some people have misguided ideas of 
what is, and isn't, important--as did I.  Some people allow others to 
control their emotions which then controls their behavior--as did I.
Some people use eating to control--as do some of my clients.
For example, I had a young girl who did that--only real way she could get 
and keep her parent's attention was to use her eating disorder.  When she'd 
starve herself or make herself sick, they'd respond.  Otherwise, she'd lock 
herself in her room, stay on that computer--and eat--and they'd leave her 
alone --until she wanted their attention.
Some people, like a friend of mine, don't know how to make themselves feel 
better emotionally, so they eat.  Or they don't know how to gain social 
interactions so they eat!

In response to your other comments:
Unfortunately, many studies with people with disabilities really don't 
include people who are visually impaired, or deaf, and I'm not sure why.  I 
think, however, it is because researchers don't understand, or relize, that 
they can either just do it, or set controls for whatever variables, and so 
they only use a specific group (e.g., people who have physical disabilities, 
people who are blind).  Also, quite simply, its a whole lot easier.  <LOL>
However, any and all research studies can be duplicated soooo nothing 
stopping you, or anyone else with an interest from taking those studies, or 
your own, and duplicating it.  <smiles>
And this time, with blind women.
It is a well-established fact that many blind people are obese.  Part of 
that may be due to lack of exercise and/or lack of opportunity.  I don't buy 
that as a valid argument, however because many of those people do inded 
exercise or have an opportunity for it.
And, I equally don't buy the idea that people who are blind don't know what 
others look like, or what we ourselves look like in comparison to others. 
After all, we hug others.  We touch others.  We're not just isolated beings 
who never come in contact with, or hear descriptives of, others.
No, my "image" of me, or you, may not be the same as a sighted person's but 
then, what's that anyway?  Ask any 3 sighted people what does Jessie look 
like and I betcha you'll get 3 slightly different descriptions anyway.
Me, I think I could lose a few pounds and I'm still beautiful, and I"m 
probably not going too because I'm enjoying the heck out of my food now, 
couldn't care less about family gatherings but no longer hate them or my 
family, or their opinions of me, spend too many hours sitting on my buttButt 
writing papers, and am too old for all that exercising although I still do 
some.
Hahahahahahaha!

Jessie Rayl
thedogmom63 at frontier.com
www.facebook.com/Eaglewings10
www.pathtogrowth.org

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Laura Glowacki" <orangebutterfly87 at gmail.com>
To: "Discussion list for ACB human service professionals" <acb-hsp at acb.org>
Sent: Monday, March 12, 2012 9:13 AM
Subject: Re: [acb-hsp] How I Learned About Mainstream Myths About Eating 
Disorders Are Wrong


Please forgive my lack of people-first language in some parts of this email.

In college as part of my BSW, I did a research project on body-image of
women with physical disabilities. The results weren't all that
interesting and didn't tell me anything that the literature and my own
experiences hadn't already told me. But the project really got me
thinking (and researching of course) about the topic.

Unfortunately, there was little to no information about women with
visual impairments. We're not often included in studies on women with
physical disabilities, but neither can we be included in studies with
women who have intellectual, psychiatric, or other non-sensory
disabilities. I did find a single case study of a deaf woman who had an
eating disorder. I found another study that concluded that the
participants who were congenitally blind had better body-image than the
participants who lost vision later in life, and those participants in
turn had better body-image than sighted participants. All participants
were female. This study was done quite a while ago; I want to say
sometime in the 1970's or 80's.

I've always been very curious about body-image of blind women and the
incidents of eating disorders among us. Back in the 70's and 80's,
perhaps the access to popular media was more restricted to visually
impaired women. Perhaps the study wasn't well done with accurate
measurements. Perhaps there's other reasons I can't think of. I know
several young visually impaired women who have had eating disorders, and
it's really made me wonder. On a blog recently, I read this particular
quote. The writer was referring to a blind woman who was on the
in-patient eating disorder unit at the same time as the writer:
" ...this means that she has never once seen her body, much less the
bodies of other women, therefore she never had the opportunity to
compare and ridicule her body. This woman’s eating disorder stemmed from
feeling worthless, not good enough, ugly on the inside. Think about
never once having to look in a mirror. Not a single chance to hate your
reflection, but also not a chance to love it. Please, to all you
uneducated individuals, tell me that eating disorders are about surface
appearances, I dare you."

This really resonated with me. Thoughts on this? I'm curious to hear
what other people think either through personal experience, professional
experience, or literature you've read.

Laura

On 2/29/2012 6:03 PM, peter altschul wrote:
> How I Learned the Mainstream Myth About Eating Disorders Was Wrong
> Autumn Whitefield-Madrano, Salon February 29, 2012
> A longer version of this piece originally appeared on Autumn
> Whitefield-Madrano's Open Salon blog.
> For National Eating Disorders Awareness Weekbwhich starts today-the
> Renfrew Center, one of the best-known eating disorder treatment
> facilities in the United States-is sponsoring a new campaign. Called
> "Barefaced and Beautiful," it's encouraging women to post photos of
> themselves on various social media without any makeup. The point is to
> ... well, they sort of lost me on that. I think the idea is to display
> pride in one's natural, unadorned self, the idea being that ... you
> don't need to ... adorn yourself ... with an eating disorder?
> I'm being intentionally dense here. Obviously the idea was to touch on
> the role of appearance dissatisfaction in eating disorders, using
> something plenty of people wear -- makeup -- as an entry point for
> talking about the larger issue. (Certainly it's more on target than
> cryptically posting the color of your bra on Facebook for breast
> cancer awareness.) And for something like a week designed to raise
> awareness about eating disorders, you need a campaign that's simple,
> accessible and attention-grabbing. But not only does the no-makeup
> rally willfully ignore the myriad reasons women wear makeup in favor
> of a one-dimensional shame-based explanation, it treats bodily
> dissatisfaction as the cause, not a symptom, of eating disorders. And
> if we keep the focus of eating disorder conversations on women's
> bodies, we're doing exactly what women with eating disorders do to
> themselves.
> We should be wary of conflating body image and eating disorders,
> because they're not nearly as connected as they're made out to be.
> It's not like she who has the worst body image develops the worst
> eating disorder, or that people whose body image is average are immune
> from eating disorders. (I have yet to meet a woman with an active
> eating disorder who has a good body image, but then again, I don't
> know tons of women with a good body image to begin with.) I'm baffled
> that Renfrew chose the makeup hook for its NEDA campaign, unless the
> idea really was just to raise awareness of the existence of eating
> disorders. ("Anorexic" has been a coverline of enough celebrity
> magazines that I don't think we need any more awareness of that
> elementary sort.) Yes, makeup is deeply tied to our ideas of
> self-presentation. It's also a method of controlling the way you're
> seen, and eating disorders are rooted in control. But none of that
> shows up in the Renfrew campaign; instead, it's all about appearance
> dissatisfaction, as though that alone can set off a disease that
> ravages onebs life.
> Eating disorders are complex beasts, with not-great recovery prospects
> and the highest mortality rate of any mental illness. We don't
> entirely know what causes eating disorders, but last year when I
> interviewed Sunny Sea Gold author of "Food, the Good Girl's Drug and a
> recovered binge eater herself, she broke it down nicely:
> Therapists pretty much agree that there are three main causes of
> eating disorders, and most of us who get them have a combination of
> the three. One is your genetics. Second is your physiology, like the
> biology of your actual brain -- your personality.... The third thing
> is environment. Environment is broken into two parts: the environment
> of your home, what your mom and dad said to you, the behaviors they
> modeled. The other part of environment is culture. So about one-sixth
> of eating disorders can be blamed on cultural environment, like the
> pictures we're shown. ... If we magically were able to suddenly change
> the images we see in order to be diverse in all ways, gradually that
> part of the pressure would relieve itself. But it wouldnbt relieve
> that need of a girl to control her food intake because she can't
> control her life.
> It's that last part that continues to get short shrift in the popular
> media. I get why the press might latch onto the thin imperative as the
> root cause of eating disorders: Media outlets love nothing more than
> to generically critique themselves (what women's magazine hasn't
> covered the problem of unrealistic body ideals formed byband the
> media?). Less cynically, poor body image is something most of us have
> experienced at some point; using this as a hook for readers to
> empathize with eating disorder patients works beautifully. Plenty of
> people have dieted to lose weight for aesthetic reasons, and the
> disordered thought loop that makes a satisfying eating disorder story
> -- I was obsessed with food! -- is mimicked in the dieting mind-set.
> So the average reader may think she's identifying with the subject,
> not realizing that what she's identifying with are the symptoms of an
> eating disorder: the restriction of food, or the overconsumption of
> it, the vigilant attention paid. But the eating disorder doesn't lie
> within its symptoms. It lies within its causes.
> Listen, I'm not saying that there's no connection between appearance
> and eating disorders. Of course there is. And body image is an
> essential topic to so many women's lives -- including women who have
> never exhibited a single eating disorder symptom in their life. Do I
> even need to point out the ways in which having poor body image is a
> drain of our reserves? Of enormous intellectual and psychic energy? Of
> time, of money, of already precious resources? Of emotion? Do I need
> to ask how many times women have asked "Do I look fat in this?"
> because we lack the words to ask for support and tenderness? As long
> as we have poor body image, we walk through this world ashamed. So,
> yes, we need body image work, and we've needed it for a long time. And
> a week devoted to eating disorder education is a good time to
> reinvigorate that conversation.
> But eating disorders do not run parallel alongside a track of bodily
> dissatisfaction, and the more we conflate the two, the less we're
> tackling the true complexity of eating disorders, and the less we're
> looking at the threads that unite patients more deeply than hating
> their thighs. We're not looking at perfectionism, or the twin sisters
> of compliance and rebellion, and how all of these play out in the
> lifetime of an eating disorder. We're not looking at biology, or
> heredity, or giving proper diligence to plain old depression and
> anxiety. Hell, we're not looking at stress. We're not looking at
> choice, autonomy or modernity. We're not looking at the role of
> trauma, or sex, or comorbidity with addiction. And it is impossible to
> treat eating disorders without treating all of these as seriously -- 
> no, more seriously than -- body image.
> It's one thing for the media to treat body image with greater weight
> than, say, family dynamics in eating disorders. It's quite another for
> a treatment clinic to do the same. The Renfrew Center certainly
> doesn't take this approach in treating its patients. When I was
> treated at Renfrew for my own eating disorder a few years ago, I was
> repeatedly struck by how little body image came up as a topic, both
> from the counselors and my fellow patients. That's not to say it
> wasn't important; it was more that we'd all thought about our bodies
> so much by the time we landed in treatment that we were chomping at
> the bit to give voice to the things that we truly needed to be able to
> talk about. I could deconstruct body standards before treatment as
> fluently as I can now. But before entering Renfrew I had no words to
> tell you about the factors that took me 25 years deep into an eating
> disorder before I committed to getting help.
> The link between appearance and eating disorders isn't that one causes
> the other; it's that they're both partly rooted in expectations of
> properly gendered behavior. (It's worth noting here that while plenty
> of straight men develop eating disorders, gay men are at higher risk
> To untangle the social angle of eating disorders, we need to look
> beyond the mere existence of the thin imperative and look at what it
> says about the role of women: that we are to be perfect, controlled,
> managed and compliant -- themes that come up repeatedly with eating
> disorder patients, themes that get to the crux of the matter more
> directly, without taking the meandering detour through our bodies.
> Makeup, too, can say a lot about those issues. It's not the worst
> motif Renfrew could have chosen for its campaign. Nor is it the best.
> I'm no P.R. expert; I have no idea how the clinic could have better
> channeled its extraordinary work into a simple campaign for the public
> to engage with. I just know that by the time I was discharged from
> Renfrew, I'd finally begun to learn that my dissatisfaction with my
> body wasn't causing my eating disorder; it was merely a symptom of my
> disease, like restricting my food intake or binge eating. I'd begun to
> take the focus off my body and put it into understanding the roots of
> my perfectionism, my people-pleasing, my family history, my silent
> shrieks of rebellion.
> I'd begun to understand that loving my body wasn't the point. The
> point wasn't even to like it. The point was to learn how to eat.
> Autumn Whitefield-Madrano examines beauty at The Beheld. Her essays
> have appeared in Glamour, Marie Claire, and Jezebel, and she is a
> contributing editor at The New Inquiry.
> ininB plus Alterationet Mobile Edition
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