[ACBS] question about dating

[Anmol Bhatia]

Thank you everyone for your suggestions and comments. I have and I am actually trying the couple of cites that have been mentioned, but I am also actually thinking buying a membership on some of the paid cites such as Match.com. I have actually had many opportunities to date, but since I am a extremely shy guy nothing has ever come of it. So maybe online dating is what I need. I totally the concerns with online dating, but a little common sense should prevent alot of the things mentioned. Frankly you really do not the person until you actually live with them and see them on a daily bases and even then the person who you thought you knew or the person you married is not what you thought they were. Frankly if I do meet someone online, I would meet them in a pub place and talk to them on the phone or online before meeting them.

Anmol
I seldom think about my limitations, and they never make me sad. Perhaps there is just a touch of yearning at times; but it is vague, like a breeze among flowers.
Hellen Keller


--- On Thu, 3/22/12, Caitlin Lynch - ACBS Second VP <secondvicepresident.acbstudents at gmail.com> wrote:

> From: Caitlin Lynch - ACBS Second VP <secondvicepresident.acbstudents at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [ACBS] question about dating
> To: "Discussion list for ACBS, American Council of Blind Students" <nabs at acb.org>
> Cc: "Discussion list for ACBS, American Council of Blind Students" <nabs at acb.org>
> Date: Thursday, March 22, 2012, 12:33 PM
>       This is a great
> topic, and a fairly complex one. I've never done online
> dating before, mostly because my interest in dating matched
> up pretty closely with when I actually started doing it. I
> know several people, blind and sighted alike, who have found
> significant others through online dating. One of my best
> friends, who is sighted, will be with a guy she found of
> plentyoffish.com for a year next month; my sister, also
> sighted, is getting engaged saturday to a guy she met on
> okcupid. I cannot speak to the accessibility of these sites,
> but I can speak to the fact that if online dating is done,
> one needs to be smart about it. Meet in a public place;
> bring a friend or sibling.  As Sara and Ty said, you
> never can tell how real people are from their online
> profiles only. I have a blind friend who met her husband on
> an online dating site exclusively for people with
> disabilities. This girl has  other disailities than
> blindness which she was struggling for s.o.s to accept; her
> f
>  uture husband shares some of these issues and its worked
> out great. I believe that site is datingfordisabled.com not
> sure if four is spelled out or the number though. A quick
> google will doubtless get you that info.
>    I know a lot of blind people who have
> found their spouses online. Not through dating sites, but
> through mutual blind friends, team talk, and email 
> lists. Some of these relationships flourish, and others
> really crash and burn. I think if you were looking for a
> blind significant other, you would be able to find one
> online through the typical avenues.
>    In terms of sighted vs blind, as all have
> said that's a personal preference. I met my fiance my
> freshman year of college. He is fully sighted, but he has
> very minor spina bifida, which means he wears a leg brace or
> sometimes uses a manual wheelchair to get around. I have
> found that this makes him more sensitive and understanding
> of disability issues, th9ough he certainly isn't an expert
> on everything blind, nor do I know all about spina bifida. I
> know blind people who date sighted people with great
> success, and the other way round. For me, I wasn't looking
> for lind or sighted but for the guy that was able to accept
> me for me; huge guide dog and all.
> HTH and let us know how the search goes
> Caitlin
> 
> Sent from my iPhone
> 
> On Mar 22, 2012, at 10:19 AM, "Littlefield, Tyler" <tyler at tysdomain.com>
> wrote:
> 
> > Anmol:
> > 
> > This is a topic I've kind of bounced around, because
> I'm not really sure how to get out my points the way I want,
> but here goes again. I'll start off by saying I have done
> the LDR dating, as well as dated someone close to me. Online
> works, but I think for the blind community in particular,
> online dating is a sort of form of separation. A lot of the
> socially awkward people (I'm not including everyone here)
> people tend to date online because well, they can hook up
> with other socially awkward people and that's that. It's a
> quick and easy fix for something they want, and it works
> because they don't need to go out and meet someone.
> > 
> > Online dating can work, but you have to be set for it.
> Most of the time it won't, and there are a lot more problems
> with it as opposed to dating in person. It's perfectly ok to
> exchange I Love you over skype with someone, but until you
> meet that person, it's kind of pointless. You might "love"
> that person I guess, but actually meeting them, spending
> time with them, it's a totally different ball game. That
> skinny beautiful girl you thought you knew could be someone
> totally different and you don't know about it until later.
> > 
> > That's just my two cents, anyway.
> > On 3/22/2012 12:32 AM, Anmol Bhatia wrote:
> >> 
> >> Hello to everyone,
> >> I am just wondering if anyone has had any
> experience with online dating and if so what sites would you
> recommend? What experiences have you had with dating sighted
> people vs dating blind people? I look forward to hearing
> your stories.
> >> 
> >> Anmol
> >> I seldom think about my limitations, and they never
> make me sad. Perhaps there is just a touch of yearning at
> times; but it is vague, like a breeze among flowers.
> >> Hellen Keller
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